I am a supporter of good relationships between people. I believe in going halfsies in most situations, and to have other friends and hobbies outside of the relationship. I admire couples who can explore their passions, and support each other's endeavors.
Recently I have found myself becoming anxious at the sight of older couples who don't talk, don't laugh at dinner, don't show affection for each other in public. I don't want to end up that way.
I won't.
Sighting 1: I went to eat at a local Mexican food restaurant and saw three couples ranging in ages 50-65, and nobody was holding any sort of conversation. No words were said. Simply eating and drinking. That's it.
Sighting 2: A husband and wife trying on clothes at a store. The wife comes out showing no emotion and asks, "How does this look." I held back my comment, wanting to tell her how bland and unflattering the pale floral blouse was, but my thoughts were interrupted by her husband's mundane response, "Yeah. That looks nice."
These realistic scenarios occur all the time, and I find them simply horrifying. I understand that every waking moment doesn't need to be spent jam packed with action and conversation, but I am terrified of settling. I believe since I am overly aware of this, I will either never put myself in this sort of situation, or be single forever. I'd rather choose the latter. I just want to walk up to boring couples and shake some emotion out of them. This anxiety has become increasingly heightened, and I don't know what to do.
All I ask is the following:
If you are in a relationship that is boring, change it.
If you have no other friends outside of your relationship, make some.
If you have no hobbies with or without your loved one, find some.
If you are an awesome person and are desperate because you are single, get over it.
If you think you don't have time to be with someone, think again.
If you think that guy/girl you admire is going to be single forever, get some confidence.
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2 comments:
For the longest time I too was terrified of settling (down), but my years of going full-tilt 24/7 seem to have changed that to a degree. I'd like to do that whole relationship thing in a meaningful capacity again (not everything is "normal" post-war, long story). Boring annoys me, and escaping the umbrella of boredom has driven many of the choices I have made as an adult. At any rate I think you've hit one of those proverbial nails on the head here. Well said.
I think this is well written, but Mairin...do these people know you are being such a creeper? I think the only reason you aren't in a steady relationship is because you don't want to be right now. That's not a negative comment...I think it's a good thing. However, the bad part of that is that it's not entirely that you DON'T want to be in a relationship right now...it's that you're crazy. C-R-A-Z-Y People can sense that, you know, like a dog can smell fear?
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